FAQ

What is the Bonding Project?

The Bonding Project is a living conversation put together by a group of friends passionate about human connection and the way we bond. Our mission is to provide a framework for people to better understand their and their partner(s)’ ideal relationship style. You can read more about us here.

WHAT IS THE BONDING STYLE TEST?

The Bonding Style Test is an online test that starts the conversation of “How do we bond?” It asks direct, non-judgmental questions about preferences for bonding agreements, structures, and partners. We translate your responses to these questions into a starting point for discovering your overall, general, and ideal Bonding Style. Then, the conversation begins.

Who is the test for?

The test is for anyone looking to have a deeper understanding of their bonding style. Whether you’re a relationship pro, working out things with a partner, or figuring out what works best for you, we hope our test can provide value.

What kind of questions are included?

We ask questions about your ideal bonding style, including what you want and need for yourself and the wants and needs you feel comfortable with for your partner(s). We ask the questions directly and without judgment so you can answer as authentically as possible.

When will I receive my results?

You should receive your results shortly after taking the quiz. Make sure to check your “promotions” or “spam” folders. Still haven’t received your results? Shoot us a note at hello [at] bondingproject.com and we’ll help sort it out.

How can I share the site with people I know?

We’re honored that you want to share The Bonding Project with people you know! We see this as a collaborative project and the more people taking the test and providing feedback, the better we can make the quiz. You can share the website: bondingproject.com and the test directly using this link:

Why do you use the term “bonding types”?

We believe that all consensual relationship types are valid. We created a universal framework to provide results without stigma or bias. You can read more about our philosophy here.

What are the bonding types?

The bonding types are one-to-one, one-to-many, many-to-many, and solo. You can read more about them here.

What is the 4 C method?

The 4 C method categorizes results as comfortable, curious, cautious, and challenged. You can read more about it here.

I’m in a happy relationship, is there still value in taking the test?

Absolutely! We encourage folks in all kinds of relationships to take the test. Our hope is to provide an opportunity for more conversation about wants, needs, and desires. It’s also totally ok if the test doesn’t tell you anything you didn’t already know about your preferences.

What does it mean if My results aren’t an accurate reflection of my ideal relationship style?

While our team did a lot of work to provide the most accurate results possible, we always want to continue to improve the experience. If you answered the questions honestly and don’t feel the results accurately represent your wants, needs, and desires, we’d love to hear from you. You can reach out at hello [at] bondingproject.com

What does it mean if My current relationship is a bonding style that is “challenged” for me?

First, it’s important that you ask yourself, “Do these test results feel right for me?” Our test results are not gospel or doctrine -- merely meant to be a helpful tool. If your results feel right, then know that “Challenged” doesn’t mean impossible or bad, it’s just... challenging. This can mean a huge opportunity for growth and learning, as long as you keep yourself safe, healthy, and supported. It won’t necessarily be easy, but we believe that with openness, communication, and a lot of work, people can adapt and grow.

What does it mean if I don’t have a “comfortable” score for any of the bonding types?

Not everyone has a dominant type. Maybe you’re still figuring out what works for you, or maybe it’s dependent on a specific partner. Perhaps you don’t want to be bonded in a romantic or sexual relationship at all, despite what society tells us every day. It’s totally normal and ok to not have a comfortable bonding style right now, or ever.

What does it mean that I am comfortable in multiple bonding types?

Being comfortable in multiple bonding types means that you’re secure in a variety of relationships. Lucky you!

Are there additional tests i can take?

Yes! We plan to introduce a partner analysis and a personality analysis using the combination of all four types sometime soon. Feedback helps us tremendously, so if you have any thoughts on how we can improve, please reach out hello [at] bondingproject.com.

How was the Test created?

Our team developed the test using our real life experience, professional research, and early beta testing. We view it as a consistent work in progress and continue to utilize other research and frameworks. You can find more information about how we created the test here.

I’d like to get involved, how can I help?

We’re always open to collaborations with individuals or organizations who share our passion for learning more about how people bond. If you want to get involved in our work, please reach out to us at hello [at] bondingproject.com.